Loving myself has nothing to do with selfishness. On the contrary, the more I learn about my needs, desires, my true nature, the more compassionate and respectful I become towards others as well as myself. I love myself when I am perfect and imperfect. I work on my flaws and at the same time I embrace them. I listen to my body attentively. It is constantly sending communication to me when I am hungry, cold, happy, good, or bad. The more I listen to it, the more signs and signals it shares with me, directing me to explore more about my individuality. Loving yourself is really a form of pleasant, kind, and productive conversation with your conscience. It is a wonderful journey of self acceptance. It makes you kind and gentle. Every person feels the same emotions, by learning more about your own you can become more empathetic towards others. If you are interested in your character, in your individuality, you become more interested in others because we all have so much more in common and to connect over than we have differences.
I used to spend too much time on beating myself up for not being the gorgeous image on the cover of vogue magazine. I had to find a way to deal and make peace with it. Going through that journey, I have begun to understand myself better and deeper and felt more pleased with life. So one day I had a brilliant idea; trying to feel good about myself and trying to live positively is what makes me feel good and live a happier life.
What really brings positive emotion though? My answer to that question is happy activities, comfort, a gratitude journal, embracing myself for everything I am, and dropping negativity from my life as much as I could. Dropping judgement of myself and others especially.
I appreciate beauty, balanced nutrition, exercise, fashion, so I shifted my attention to notice the beauty around me. It occupied my mind pretty fast. It turned into a playful game that I really enjoyed. I focused my attention on living a healthy lifestyle. Even in a situation where someone wanted to put me down or said something hurtful to spoil my day, it was impossible to do because I learned how to shift my attention quickly. I realized that I was the only one who could ruin my day and by choosing not to focus on negativity, even when it was right in front of me, made life so much better. I would say to myself, “This day is so beautiful, sunny, warm and pleasant. My mood is good, and good things will come from it.” This mantra has saved my day from turning sour many times.
When you are at a point in your life where you don’t know what to do, embark on a journey of loving yourself. The making of a special you and accepting you the way you are is an extraordinary process. The secret about cultivating compassion is to become kinder to yourself and others. Create a special you, you are lovable.
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